love is meaningless. only relationship is meaningful

ofcourse, i have stated before, in my first post, that people have stopped thinking. so it came as no surprise, to find people, finding themselves at crossroads, deciding to hold on to whatever was thought by other people and passed on to them, rather than to think.
and precisely, i could be accused of passing on my thought. but more than beliveing me, i want people to think. if, and what a big if it is, people do start thinking, it will become obvious, the things i am stating here.
ok, let me start with an example ( i would like to mention though, examples are the worst way of explaining things, because examples can be misleading, and are often misunderstood. but i use it, for lack of imagination from the part of my readers) .
We love our parents. right? we tend to belive we love our parents. but look closely, isnt it obvious we love our parents, because they are our parents, rather than who they are as individuals or who we are individuals. we love them, for the relationship that binds us.
ofcousre, there are parents, who dont love their children as much. but do the children, start hating them. no. not until, the relation stops having meaning. that is to say, we love our parents, till the relationship ceases to have meaning.
more often we see, we find children, once grown up, married, they move on, and scarcely care for their parents. why? is it that the love for their parents has grown less. no. not at all. the relationship has lost its significance.
i ask everybody, how can we love some person today, and hate the same person other day. is it love so fragile. so tangible. does our love depend upon how the other person behaves to us. ( if yes, then i would like to remind u, u r not talking abt love, u r talking abt newton's third law of action reaction)
and if that is the case, what does it mean to love a person indefinitely, forever. it is meaningless.
listen, we need a relation. and that is what we strive towards. let me ask u, again, why do we love a person. the easiest reason is, i dont know, i just love a person. when most things, in life, have a reason. how come love doesnt? is it because, we are hypocrites. we are cowards. we fail to acknowledge, we need a relation ( which is very tangible, and materialistic) and as soon as we use reltion, we think of physical relation, and feel ashamed of ourselves.
but the relation i am talking abt, is the need to bond with others. the need to identify ourselves and differentiate ourselves from others. we love others, for our sake. for the sake of relationship. because alone we feel insecure.
suppose, today, ur beloved, hurts u. in a way, it is irraparable. u have simply decided not to talk to the person ever again. u still think of the person. why? is it love? if it is love, isnt love all about forgiving. isnt love all about compromises. isnt love mutual. infact how could the person u love so much, hurt u. because, love can never hurt ( i am not talking abt love not being reciprocated) . love simply is. then why do we feel hurt and move on. its not because love has suddenly faded away. its because, we find the relationship, we are in is no more sustainable.
as an individual, its relationship we seek. as a kid, we sought parents, teh we sought friends, then lover, then wife, then children. love is just a bonus. whther love is there or not, we will pursue the same path. ( dont the parent love their children, no matter how bad the kids are. is it love. or is it because they are their son's and daughters ( relation) . )
think again.
looka t ur memories they are filled with sweetness and bitterness, arising out of a relation. u forget the love they gave u. ( can u remember the sweet lullaby ur mother sang every night, can u remember the warmth of her smile, the first time ur beloved spoke to u.....no all u remember is the warmth of the relation they provided, the comfort, the assurance )
even from a evolutionary point of view, what advantage, does love provide. none at all. ist only the relation, that makes life so much advatntages